Advice on Men, courtesy of my cousin...

Thanks to my cousin, Beckey for the following...

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.

Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what
makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was
not treating you as you deserve then NO, you can't "be friends."
A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't settle. If you feel like he
is stringing you along, then he probably is.

Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at
yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak
up. Never let a man know everything.
You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.

Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even
if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a
quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else's man.
If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two way street.

You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute
about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new
relationship. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...
a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone
complimentary...not supplementary. Dating is fun...even if he
doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are,
and you're always readily available to him ... he takes it for granted.

Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man.
Don't fully commit to a man who
doesn't give you everything that you need.

Keep him in your radar but get to know others.